We have all had our hearts broken at least once or twice before, by friends or significant others or even family members. It is hard. It is confusing and difficult to get through, but getting through it is possible.
Whether you know someone with a broken heart or are feeling a little down yourself, here are a few inspirational quotes to slowly begin the healing process.
1. “Problems are only opportunities with thorns on them.” – Hugh Miller
Problems are really opportunities disguised as obstacles. A broken heart is something that seems to have no solution, but that does not mean it cannot prove to have value in your life. Anything can heal a broken heart with time: moving to a new place, temporarily or permanently; switching jobs; taking up a new hobby. Find constructive ways to fill the empty space your sadness has created inside you. You never know where or when new opportunities will spring up.
2. “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” — Mark Twain
Just because you forgive someone for doing you wrong does not mean it did not happen. It does not mean you have to forget. However, even if you forgive someone in your heart without ever seeing them face to face again, it is still part of the healing process. Forgiveness is how you begin to let go of the negative feelings associated with your bad experience, and how you will begin to move forward again.
3. “For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Getting through a hard time in your life is not at all a simple thing. You may feel as though you need to fix it, or that you are not allowed to be sad or go through a normal grieving process. Loss is loss, however, even when someone breaks your heart. The mental and emotional stress that follows is not only to be expected, but it is healthy. You do not have to move on until you are ready. Let yourself feel sad. Allow yourself to process your feelings. Eventually you will start to feel okay again. The rain will stop on its own.
4. “The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears.” – John Vance Cheney
You are allowed to feel. Grieving is not a fun experience, but it must be had. It is how we process the events that upset our lives and how we learn to cope with the things that have happened to us. Your broken heart will heal, and there is something to be learned from the moment it shattered into pieces. It may be a long time before you figure out what that something is, but the most important thing is that you keep in mind the good that will come from what you are going through. If nothing else is going to get you through it, this knowledge will.
5. “Never forget, you have value. You are worth time, worth energy, worth worship.” – Benedict Smith
Just because one person has left you behind does not mean the whole world has given up on you. You still have worth, and there will always be people in your life who will support you and stand with you no matter what. Never forget that.
6. “The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you’re walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. That’s the moment you may be starting to get it right.” — Neil Gaiman
Never let yourself believe that showing your true feelings is the wrong thing to do. There are always going to be people who want to hurt you, but compared to the love that one person one day will have for you, that kind of hate doesn’t matter. Don’t close yourself off and miss out on the rewards of showing the world who you are on the inside.
7. “A soul mate is not the person who makes you the happiest, but the one who makes you feel the most.” — Sierra DeMulder
Feeling sad makes us feel vulnerable and weak. But that is not what you are. You are simply a person, one with a good heart. You feel these things because you care. Don’t worry about the people out there who seek to hurt and destroy with no remorse. You are better off without them. But that does not mean the fact that you cared is any less significant. Caring is not an easy thing to do for some people. It has made you stronger, and will continue to do so throughout the remainder of your life.
8. “Sadness flies away on the wings of time.” – Jean de la Fontaine
Time is the best medicine for a broken heart. That may not be something you want to hear, but it is the truth. You cannot speed through those feelings of anger and remorse. You cannot turn your back on them the same way the person who hurt you turned their back on your relationship. Take things one day at a time and know that one day you will wake up and realize it does not hurt so much anymore.
9. “There is no remedy for love but to love more.” — Henry David Thoreau
Losing a loved one, regardless of the circumstances, hurts. It hurts when they walk out of your life willingly and when you are kept from them uncontrollably. The best thing you can do for yourself, when love has treated you wrongfully, is to find love elsewhere. Not necessarily in a romantic way, but in ways you may have forgotten love could be found. Spend time with a friend, or a sibling or parent. Cherish a pet, or adopt a new one. Love is all around you. Just because you have lost one source does not mean you will not find another.
It is going to be okay. Eventually. Let yourself feel what you need to feel, and when you are ready, keep moving forward.