What matters the most in a relationship? Here are seven of the most important things to keep an eye on in your relationship in order to keep it strong and healthy.
You should always respect everyone you meet. The same goes for the person you love and care about most in your life: your significant other. If you are going to have a relationship with your significant other that is successful and rewarding for both of you for a very long time, you first need to show respect not just for your significant other, but also for yourself. Respect their privacy, their time, their feelings, their needs and desires. In the same way, respect your own time, feelings and needs. If you show them respect, they are much more likely to show respect in return, and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2. Dedicating time specifically for spending time together
Just because you are in a comfortable relationship does not mean you can neglect how important it is to spend time together. For example, it is completely acceptable, and often very beneficial, for married couples to go on “dates” out to dinner or traveling somewhere for the day. Make sure that you are planning activities together that you will both enjoy, so that you can be reminded of the significance you play in each other’s daily lives. However, this does not mean you have to spend every waking moment together. It is okay to plan separate activities and have different schedules, as long as you dedicate time, often, meant only to be spent together.
A relationship that is not built on trust will not last very long at all. However, if you do base your relationship on trust, and show each other that you trust each other, your relationship is much more likely to last a very long time – maybe even a lifetime, if you are fortunate. You must keep in mind, though, that trust must be earned. You cannot expect your significant other to trust you if you are either doing untrustworthy things, like seeing other people while in an exclusive relationship, or if you show that you are unable to trust your partner. Trust goes both ways.
4. Effective communication
Communicating clearly and often with your significant other is probably one of the most important things in maintaining a successful relationship. It’s the case with friends and family, too, but couples often struggle because they may not believe or value the same things or understand where the other person is coming from. If you are feeling a certain way, you cannot be silent about it; you have to speak up. Keep in mind that effective communication isn’t just about saying what you mean; it is also about listening to the other person doing the same thing, as you would hope and expect them to do for you.
In order for two people to engage in a successful relationship, they need to be willing and able to support each other – emotionally; mentally; physically; even financially and in important life decisions like career changes, promotions and other things. Support is essential. For all you know, you might be the first and/or only person your significant other has told about what they are going through. Even if you do not always completely understand or agree with them, it is essential to let them know that you are willing to support them anyway. A simple, “I am here and I support you no matter what” is often all it takes to let someone know you are always going to be there for them – as long as, of course, you always follow through with your promises.
No matter what, you always need to be honest with your significant other if your relationship is going to make it. It does not matter how big or small something is; if you expect someone else to always tell the truth to you, you need to do the same thing back to them. No one enjoys being lied to or having information kept from them. If you are even considering lying to your significant other about something, stop and take a moment to think about how you would feel if they did the same thing to you in a similar situation. You do not want to be hurt, and they do not want you to hurt them, either. Sometimes telling the truth seems like the hardest thing in the world to do, but you must be confident that in the long term, honesty is always the best policy.
A lot of times, relationships need compromise if they are going to be successful and last a long time. Compromising means that you both give up something in order to reach common ground and make each other happy. For example, maybe you want to go out to dinner, but he wants to stay in. You can compromise by ordering food from a restaurant you both enjoy to be delivered to where you live. Understand the importance of compromise in leading a successful relationship with your significant other and you will be happy with them for years to come.
There are many things that define a successful, meaningful and worthwhile relationship. If you are ever hesitant about whether or not something is important in a relationship, just always think about how you would want to be treated, and that makes it a little easier. If you get mad when people lie to you, disrespect you, don’t make time for you or don’t try to be there for you in any way at all, then you have no right to lie to, disrespect or ignore other people – especially the person you are in a relationship with.
Take care of them, especially if you want them to take care of you. Relationships are a two way effort. If two people put equal effort into supporting and loving each other, the relationship will stay afloat, no matter what happens.