Listen up, guys! Us girls really aren’t so very complicated (although it’s far more common for most men to think otherwise…).
If you’re looking for some very real advice on marriage, then it’s far better to get it straight from the horse’s mouth, so to speak. The following is some very real, very frank marriage advice for men – from a female perspective.
It’s not about the money!
Hey, fellas. If your lady loves you – she loves you! And sure, once in a while it’s nice if someone splashes out, perhaps on a gift or a fancy vacation. But actually, we’d far prefer to receive something that means more than money – it shows you love us back.
- So forget the posh restaurant – take us on a picnic instead.
- Don’t send us a $50 bouquet of flowers that you’ve spent 2 minutes ordering online and someone else writes the card. Pick up a card and write it yourself, then send it through the mail!
- Ditch the 5 star hotel. Take us camping. There’s something awfully romantic about cuddling up under canvas…
There’s a million different ways to say ‘I love you’ without spending a fortune – or even anything at all. All it takes is a little imagination.
Surprise us – often…
Kiss us when we’re not expecting it. Come home early from work and take us to the movies. Bring us breakfast (or our morning coffee) in bed. Cut out an article from a magazine or newspaper that you think we’d like to see…
There’s nothing more sexy than a guy who knows how to treat a lady. Not that we’re harping to go back to the 1950s, but hey – letting us go through the door first, helping us with our coat, putting your jacket around our shoulders if its cold… Each and every little such gesture reminds us once again exactly why we fell in love with you.
Don’t always let us have our own way
Guys, we’re only human. And this means that we know we can be unreasonable at times. This is where you need to stand your ground and not let us get away with everything. Because if you do, we’ll eventually lose all respect for you. We know when we’re being ridiculous – so simply put us in our place (nicely, of course…). And once we’ve got off our prima donna pedestal, we’re awfully good at making amends – if you get our meaning…
Laugh at us
When we’re being daft – or if we’re taking ourselves and/or life a little too seriously. The power of laughter is incredible – and when we laugh together, we become ever closer.
Be stupid around us
Because it shows that you love us enough to let your guard down. And when we’re stupid back, it’s a mutual show of trust.
Share the chores
Because not matter what your mates might tell you (or your mom), the 21st century really is a time where both halves need to chip in. Sure, you’re shattered from a long day at work. But – and here’s a thing – so are we! But we still take out the trash, wash the dishes, clean the house, do the grocery shopping, the laundry… You get the picture.
So just help, without being asked. Because we really do hate nagging. In fact, putting your partner in a position where she has to nag you to get help is akin to pushing her away. It’s true – every time she feels put upon is like a tiny little wedge between you. Do it enough, and those tiny wedges add up to make a chasm.
Don’t be too lovey-dovey
Because you might think you’re being romantic, but actually, it’s a bit sickening. Declaring your undying love on Facebook might seem like a nice thing to do, you’d think? Actually, what you’re really doing is telling everyone else that we’re your property. It’s a bit like a dog peeing to mark its territory. Nice….!