Did you know that your life is, in general, a reflection of your attitude? If you start the day in a positive frame of mind, it’s pretty likely that good things will happen. And it’s not because anything different has occurred. It’s simply that because of the way you’re reacting to all around you, if a challenge rocks up, you simply roll with it…
But if you have a negative attitude, the opposite occurs.
The following are some great tips that can help you live and keep a life with a positive attitude.
Make someone else smile
How good does it feel when someone makes you smile? Well, if you make it your aim to do this back to others, then guess what? Not only do you make their day, but it’s scientifically proven to make you feel better as well. A win-win situation all round, wouldn’t you say.
Recognize the good things in your life
Now, we’re not saying that you should keep a gratitude journal (although this is an option), but we should all take time out each day to say thanks for the good things in our lives.
And hey, while we can all become overjoyed when something super-big happens, these tend to be few and far between. Far better to focus on the little, everyday things that we should be thankful for.
You know, that first cup of coffee in the morning. The crunch of the fall leaves you stepped on during your walk to work. The sound of the ocean as it crashes to the shore (if you’re lucky enough to live in such an area). The way the baby grabbed hold of your finger and held on for dear life… You get the picture.
Surround yourself with positive people
There’s nothing more harmful to your own attitude than being with someone who’s negative. Such a person will drain away your good thoughts, replacing them with their own negative one.
Recognizing others with a negative attitude is a key solution to ensuring that they don’t drag you down with them. It might seem a bit harsh, but each and every one of us makes a daily choice about who we spend time with. And why on earth would you allow someone who’s detrimental to your own well being to bring you down too?
Change negative words for positive ones
Words = power; more power than most of us give them credit for. By using positive words to describe your life, you will actually inject more positivity into it.
If you say your life is boring, then it will be. But on the flip side, if you instead describe your life as familiar, or simple, then this puts a whole different spin on it. It’s all a matter of perception – and you, and only you, get to choose the way you perceive your life… So make sure you make the right choices.
Don’t’ get dragged into other people’s complaints
Ever feel like your day’s going well, and then someone comes and burdens you with the fact that their day’s pretty crappy? And suddenly, the sunshine is sucked out of your day as well.
So, you have to learn not to fall into this trap. It’s well known that complaining lowers mood and brings on negative emotions. Don’t be drawn into their ‘bad day’. Instead, excuse yourself, and let them deal with it themselves.
Point out solutions, not problems
No matter what area of your life we’re talking about, if there’s a ‘problem’ to solve, you should instead think of it as a challenge. And when you point out this challenge, then you should offer a solution to help rectify it.
Having a positive attitude doesn’t mean that you’re blind to things that need improving. Instead, what you need to do is offer ways to make things better when pointing them out.
Don’t forget to breathe
Have you ever noticed that when you’re experiencing a negative emotion, your breathing rate changes? When you’re angry or anxious you’re likely to breathe faster, or even hold your breath. This is because your breathing and your emotions are directly linked.
But the great news is that while our emotions can affect our breathing, the reverse is also true. So if you feel yourself getting a little stressed, concentrate on bringing your respiration rate back under control. You’ll be amazed at the effect this will have on your positivity.
Act like a child
Yes, really. If you want to sing at the top of your voice, then do so. If you want to have a little dance – then feel free. There’s a reason kids have less emotional problems than adults, and it’s down to their freedom of expression. And we too, as adults, can do the same. It will boost our positivity and allow us to profit from the benefits of having a positive attitude that such behavior brings.