Long distance relationships are hard. They differ from regular relationships (obviously), and certainly throw up their own peculiar challenges.
And if it feels as though going a bit awry, how on earth do you know that it’s time to call it a day?
The following are signs that perhaps the time has come to end your long distance relationship:
When you do meet up, the intimacy is becoming less and less
Yep – it’s very often that one of the biggest red flags is when the bedroom antics aren’t quite so, errr, bedroomy… (We’re not going to spell it out for you). But actually, being intimate isn’t just about getting between the sheets – it shows in many different ways.
Holding hands, giving (and receiving) a little gift, a kiss on the forehead, stroking his or her face – you get the picture… And if this has stopped, then unless you both do something about it, then it’s probably the beginning of the end.
You’ve stopped planning as a couple
When you stop making plans together, this is definitely a warning sign. Suddenly you’re not thinking and talking about the next time you meet up. Instead, you’re getting excited over other aspects of your life.
One thing a long distance relationship needs to thrive is looking forward to the next time you get proper face time. Lose that thrill, and the relationship is on a dead end path.
You don’t trust him/her anymore
It matters not whether your partner has or hasn’t cheated. But if you don’t trust them, then this relationship is doomed. Checking up on them (yes, we’re talking Facebook stalking, looking at their What’s App to see when they were last online – and all those other little ways that are available in today’s technologically advanced world) is not, we repeat NOT, the basis for a long and fruitful relationship.
Or they don’t trust you…
If you’re honey needs to know where you are every minute of every day, this is not a good sign. It means they don’t trust you. Do they have reason? In which case, do the decent thing and end it. Or is it that they have trust issues? If this is the case, you need to decide whether you can handle being with a person who’s going to suspect you even when you’re not doing anything wrong.
(And trust us – this will NOT get better over time…)
They’ve cheated (or you have)
Cheating does not make for healthy relationships. And in long distance relationships, trust really is everything. Once that trust has been broken, at best all you’ll be able to do is paper over the cracks. You can never truly repair broken trust.
Or perhaps you want to cheat – you might have met someone else and you ‘just know’ that something’s going to happen between the two of you. If so, do the right thing and end your LDR before anything occurs.
The relationship feels one sided
Either you’re putting in all the effort, or you feel that you simply can’t be bothered to try as hard as they do. Either way, this is definitely a sign that your LDR isn’t going to cut it…
If the relationship is feeling more like a chore than a delight, then this is a massive warning sign. Any relationship – be it regular or long distance – should be fun and enjoyable (bar the hard parts that all relationships go thought that we all have to work through).
If you’re is now boring, then perhaps it’s run its course?
You’re gut instinct tells you to end it
There’s a lot to be said for trusting your instincts. And if you feel deep down that you’re long distance relationship has, well… done the distance, then perhaps it really is time to call it a day.