Being a young adult in the 21st century brings a unique set of challenges. Never in man’s history has their been so much opportunity and technology available. But this brings it’s own issues along with it.
Self-help for young adults is a somewhat different subject to that for people of more mature years. The following are 9 of the best self-help books out there today, specifically written for those aged between their teens and mid-twenties.
1. 101 Secrets for your Twenties by Paul Angone
101 Secrets for your Twenties started life as a blog post (called 21 Secrets for Your 20s). This went viral, being eagerly read by a million readers in 190 countries! This made author, Paul Angone, realize that there was a real need for such information, so he expanded the original blog to create this book.
The book covers such subjects as that ‘aaaah – post-college panic’, jobs (good and bad), relationships, break ups, loneliness, confusion, anticipation, disappointment… In other words, all those things that makes this time of life so great, and on the flip side, so damn awful as well.
It’s a great read, and honest too – inspiring hope, at times making you ROFL, but most of all, making you realize that you’re not alone. Knowing that others have also been affected, or are going through similar ‘stuff’ makes it a superb morale booster.
2. How to Like Yourself: A Teen’s Guide to Quieting Your Inner Critic and Building Lasting Self-Esteem by Cheryl M Bradshaw MA
You know that voice inside your head? The one that knocks you down every time you think you’ve got it sorted? Well, How to Like Yourself is a practical, funny, and inspiring guide that’ll show you how you to take charge and quiet that confidence sapping whispering from within.
You’ve got enough going on during this time of life, from school to college, friends to relationships, exams to fitting in having fun… And this all-important shaping time of your life means that you can be susceptible to being way too self-critical, and this in turn can have a profound effect on how you view yourself.
From advice to raising your self esteem to learning the art of self-forgiveness, this is the ultimate guide about how to have the relationship with yourself that will stand you in fantastic stead to carve out the qualities you need for the rest of your life.
3. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens has sold over 5 million copies around the globe, making it worthy of its nickname, ‘the ultimate teenage success guide’. This landmark book is a step by step guide that helps you make informed decisions, not only about how to get from where you are now to where you want to be, but how to come to understand what it is that you actually want in the first place!
Entertaining, immensely readable, and completely up to date for the 21st century, this is a book that every teenager and young adult would do well to take note of.
4. The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make: A guide for teens by Sean Covy
Covy’s second book, The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make, builds upon the book above. This tome of words discusses exactly how to come to the decisions you have to make during these formative years, because such choices made now will in no small part have an influence on the rest of your life.
Covering challenges such as dating, academic stress, parental communication, media (both news and social) bombardment, bullying, peer pressure, depression, and addiction, the book provides strong, realistic advice on how to deal with a variety of situations that all young adults experience.
5. The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens by Jennifer Shannon
For anyone who knows how the terrifying clutch of shyness feels, then you need to read The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens. The thing is, if you suffer from social anxiety and/or shyness, you also know that in addition to making your stomach curl and clench in that awful manner, it also prevents you from enjoying the regular social experiences that should be making your formative years so much fun.
This workbook provides the answers to handling all such social situations in a way that exudes confidence. Basted on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, work through the exercises set out in this book to kick that shyness into touch once and for all.
6. Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life For Teens by Sheri Van Dijk
Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life For Teens tackles the very real issue of teens and young adults learning how to take control of all those pesky emotions. You know, anger, sadness, fear, frustration… That sort of thing. It takes time and skill to understand the unique method that you need to employ to be in control of these powerful feelings, and this workbook can help you do just that.
Based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy, the book has been designed to help those who have true difficulty learning how to take charge of their emotions. Learn how to stay calm in stressful situations, how to manage your emotions when they threaten to spiral out of control, and how to reduce the pain of super-intense emotions, amongst other things. A real life changer for anyone who feels their life is being ruled by their emotions, instead of the other way round.
7. Beyond The Blues by Lisa M Schab
During the adolescent, teenage, and young adult years, a flurry of difficult feelings and emotions can make you susceptible to anxiety and depression – more so than at any other time in your life.
Beyond The Blues is a strategically set out book that helps you to understand how you can cope with difficult feelings and those of sadness. Discover the unique method that allows you to deal with conflicts for a positive outcome, and how that making easy, small changes can lead to a massive improvement in the long term.
We particularly like the fact that the book caters for everyone – in the way that it provides opportunities in the exercises given for you to tailor these to fit your unique personality. After all, we’re all one-of-a-kind, so we can’t expect there to be a single solution that works for everyone. We all heal in subtly different ways, so the book provides a wide variety of exercises – you can pick and choose the ones that work best for you.
8. Get Out Of Your Mind And Into Your Life by Joseph Ciarrochi
The workbook, Get Out Of Your Mind And Into Your Life, is another great self-help book to help you learn to cope with difficult emotions that prevent you from living the confident life you strive for.
Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, you’ll work through a series of exercises that target such emotions as fear, embarrassment, self-criticism, and self doubt. The aim of the book is to teach you how to be kinder to yourself (because no-one is a bigger critic of yourself than you!), and ultimately increase your confidence and self worth.
9. Adulting: How To Become A Grown-Up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps by Kelly Williams Brown
We’ve deliberately left the best till last… Adulting is the New York Times bestseller specifically for young adults who feel like you do right now! You know, somewhat bewildered that you’re now an adult in the big wide world, but you have no idea how to actually be one…!
Let’s face it, taking those first steps into adulthood – and having to cope with ‘stuff’ yourself, is damn difficult, confusing, and, we have to admit, downright scary at times. So if you could do with a guidebook that helps you cope with such everyday issues such as, ‘what to check for when renting a new apartment’, or ‘finding a car mechanic who won’t rip you off’, then this book is a must read…