Hey guys… Wanna get to know your girlfriend a little more intimately (No, smut brain! Not in that way – we’ll leave that part up to your own imagination…).
What we’re talking about is getting to know what really makes her tick. So slip some of the following questions into conversation for a real deep-dive into her psyche.
But it’s only fair these questions come with a warning. Because you need to be ready to hear the truth – and sometimes that can be just a little bit hard to swallow…
1. What’s the first thing you noticed about me?
Now, how she answers will probably depend on a couple of things. A) How long you’ve been together, and b) how much she trusts you.
Of course, you’re going to want to hear that it was your devastating good looks, naturally. But heads up, fellas. Girls see the world through a different pair of eyes to us. And sure, she might well mention your cute butt or your dazzling eyes. But it could just as well be something completely off the wall like the fact that you’d got egg dripped down the front of your shirt or your sweat stains under your arms…
Whatever it is, she noticed you. And it made her want to know more (or despite your too short trousers she was still keen). Just be prepared for her answer to be somewhat of a shocker…
2. What goals do you have for us?
OK, so this one’s a little more serious. And how she answers will give you a look-see into just where she sees your relationship right now. If she feels strongly enough about you, and is confident you feel the same, she might mention living together, kids, or even marriage.
But if she doesn’t see you as a long-term prospect, she could well sidestep the question and simply turn it into plans for herself. Either way, it’ll give you an idea into how committed she is to you.
3. Have you ever been in love before me?
Now, don’t get all antsy and possessive over her answer. Because in all reality, most of us have (unless this is your first high school relationship). Because however she’s felt about somebody else in the past, she’s with you now. So get over it!
4. What were you looking for when you found me? Were you looking for love at all?
The thing about falling in love is that it tends to hit you out of the blue. So it’s highly likely she’ll say that she wasn’t looking for anyone, and certainly wasn’t expecting to fall in love.
Take this as the compliment it’s meant to be. After all, your unique charms are what won her over when she was least expecting it. Go you…!
5. What are your thoughts on having our elderly parents live with us if they can’t live on their own one day?
Now, there’s no right or wrong answer to this. And, of course, it depends on what stage you guys are at right now. If you’re clocking up a few years yourselves, have done all your ‘career getting’ and perhaps own some property, then you both might be up for it.
But if either of you has a fledgling career just blossoming, or you have plans to travel and work overseas, then right now this might seem a total impossibility. And of course, how old are your folks right now?
Any answer isn’t a deal breaker. Unless of course she’s vehemently against it and you know that whatever happens Mom and/or Dad are going to be occupying your spare room when they get old and frail.
6. When did you realize you were in love with me?
D’you know? She might not even be able to pin point it… And if so, don’t be offended. Because love is a strange and wonderful thing. Some folk believe in love at first sight. Others believe it’s something that has to grow.
Whatever her answer, she’s in love with you, right! And if she’s not – then perhaps this is the time to question whether the relationship is the right one for you to be in anyway…
7. If you had to choose, would you rather receive a gift – or have someone do something nice or helpful for you?
This is such an interesting question that reveals if a person is driven by materialistic things, or by love and emotion. Once again, depending on your own personality, neither would be a right or wrong answer. But it will give you a great insight into what drives her as a person.