The thing about low self-esteem is that it can manifest itself in all sorts of weird ways. So weird, in fact, that often you don’t even realize you suffer from it.
The following are some tell tale signs that perhaps your level of self esteem isn’t as high as it should be.
Now, while being indecisive on occasion is OK, when it comes to being unable to make a simple decision – such as what restaurant to eat at, for example, can certainly be sign of low self-esteem. Or, once having made a decision, you then change your mind multiple times.
Committing to a decision can, in some cases, be truly overwhelming for some. And for those for whom this is true, they simply avoid making them. Interestingly, such tactics are more common in men than in women (although this isn’t to say that women don’t suffer from indecision as well, because nothing could be further from the truth.
2. Constantly checking your phone
This is a 21st century manifestation that can signify low self-esteem. For example, you’re in a social situation where you don’t know many people. Instead of heading into the throng and finding people to talk to, you instead check your phone. Because this makes you appear to be socially connected.
Along the same lines, even when you’re alone, the constant checking of Facebook and other social media for some kind of connection can indicate that you’re simply not at home with your own company. You constantly need the interaction of others to prove that you’re a ‘wanted’ person.
3. Comparing yourself to others
Of course, it’s healthy to regard other people who we want to emulate. But constantly comparing yourself in a negative fashion really can be a sign of low self-esteem. Looking at the success of others in a way of putting yourself down does no-body any good.
Instead of concentrating on your failures (and remember, these are only failures in your own eyes), it’s far more important to concentrate on your personal journey towards your goals. Sure – use others as role models, but constant comparisons that are derogatory to your own abilities is truly damaging to your own confidence and self-esteem.
4. A slouching posture
Body language means so much. And those who have high self-esteem tend to stand tall. Those who hold themselves in low regard often walk slouched, as though they’re trying to become as small as possible because they don’t consider themselves worthy of being noticed, or they’re simply trying to hide.
Standing tall and sitting up straight are two very simple, instantaneous ways of helping with low self-esteem.
5. Excessive sleeping habits
Low self-esteem can have a lot of physical side effects, such as fatigue. So if you find yourself constantly nodding off during the day, this could be a symptom of low self esteem. It can also be a sign of depression, but in either case, it can be an avoidance tactic when you have a lot on your plate.
6. You can’t accept compliments
Do you have an issue accepting a genuine compliment? When it happens, do you simply dismiss it, instead of graciously accepting it in the manner in which it’s given?
This is a classic sign of low self-esteem, because receiving a compliment is in direct contrast with how you feel about yourself.
However, there are some easy steps you can take to help with this.
- Simply smile and say thank you.
- Don’t make ‘I don’t deserve it’ comments. If you can’t bring yourself to say anything, a smile will suffice.
- Don’t claim that whatever you’re being complimented on is ‘down to luck’.
- If it helps, treat a compliment in the way that you would a gift, and graciously accept it.
And if that doesn’t help, remember that in fact, all those comments about why you don’t deserve the compliment simply make people reaffirm it again and again. So take the compliment in the way it’s meant – because in all likelihood, the person giving it really does mean it.